Jess had a pattern. Every relationship lasted exactly three months, give or take a week. The honeymoon phase would end, reality would set in, and someone would bail. Usually her.
After her latest three-month breakup, her mum asked the question that stung: "Do you think maybe you're the common denominator, love?"
Jess, sitting in her parents' kitchen in Fremantle, wanted to argue. But the evidence was overwhelming. Seven relationships in four years, all ending the same way. Maybe Mum had a point.
Her psychologist suggested attachment theory work, which was helpful but abstract. Jess needed something concrete—actual patterns she could identify and change. During a lunch break at her job in Perth CBD, she found an AI relationship analysis tool that claimed to decode communication styles and compatibility patterns.
The AI Relationship Compatibility Report from zaishi.net gave Jess a 75/100 partnership success score, but more importantly, it revealed her core issue: she had an "intimacy threshold" at around 12 weeks. When relationships moved from casual fun to emotional vulnerability, she unconsciously sabotaged them through conflict or withdrawal.
The report showed her communication style: she expressed love through intellectual connection and shared experiences, but when partners tried to deepen emotional intimacy, she'd deflect with humour or logic. Her conflict resolution pattern? Avoid, minimize, exit.
"It was like reading my relationship obituary written before the person died," Jess says. "Every failed relationship suddenly made sense."
The AI also recommended she wait until her late 20s or early 30s for serious commitment—not because she wasn't loveable, but because her emotional processing patterns were still developing. She was 26. She had time to work on herself.
Six months of focused self-work later—therapy, journaling, actually sitting with uncomfortable feelings—Jess started dating someone who matched her communication style. They're eight months in, past her usual exit point, and she hasn't bolted.
"Understanding my patterns didn't fix everything overnight," Jess admits. "But it gave me a map of where I kept getting lost."
For Australians stuck in relationship loops—understanding why you repeat patterns is the first step to breaking them.
Decode your relationship patterns: Get your free AI Relationship Compatibility Report at zaishi.net.